HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOUR POSITIVE

Do we ever know when is the best time to tell our status and to whom we should tell it too? Well this is the question I get asked a lot and I will attempt to give examples of the different ways we all choose to do this and some of the repercussions of telling to the wrong people.

My 1st experience was at the very beginning of my diagnosis in 1986. I never thought that having a disease would make so many people so crazy….acting hysteria about an illness that only I have inside my body? I never expected anything bad to happen if I told my friends, my family, my children. Well I was about to learn about human behavior….especially fear of the unknown.

I had just told all of my Navy buddies in our shop about my status and they had asked if they could tell there wives. I said “sure.. she should know to support you”. But I had know idea about how this would be done and I had no idea that they would no longer be aloud to come to our home or that I would no longer be able to visit or especially touch there children.

I felt very hurt and angry that they should over react (in my opinion). I called the navy chaplain for a sounding board and hopefully some tools since this would probably not be the last time this reaction would happen. He started by listening to my story then replied, "Do you blame them for protecting their children and families?" Damn, I said in my head. I'd be better off to foster a relationship and realize their affection and eventual love before I tell them. People will be more likely to understand and support you when the are not just a casual acquaintance. These are the pearls of our lives and I learned not to give them to just anyone.

Love,
Deb V.

The Run Down on Thursday Group…

Before I begin I just wanted to let you all know that we are dedicated to confidentiality. The groups are a time for women to come together to attain goals, to feel a part of a very special community and be able to speak there mind without reprisal. There is love and acceptance here. We are supportive and committed to
each other. We communicate in an insider's language with those of us who live with HIV. We know that we all face a difficult challenge in every day life. We want you to remember you can be yourself. We are here to support each other and listen There is always someone you can identify with. We try to look for the positive in life not the negative because we have a lot to offer and we can learn from each other. I want to invite you all to come and have lunch. And if you have any luncheon idea that you would like to see happen then let Deb. V. or Deb.H. know about them. We are open for suggestions.
Deb H.

HOPE TO SEE YOU AT GROUP!

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